Dear Aunt Mary,
“What do you do when a 35-year-old Sri Lankan (so she said) woman, whom you’ve never seen before in your life, knocks on your door and tells you that she’s looking for a permanent boyfriend and somewhere to live, and that she has her sights firmly set on you?”
Signed,
Opportunity Knocking for Theseustoo.
Aunt Mary has been receiving a number of questions of a sexual nature, such as this one from Nephew Theseustoo. I have received so many questions (not all thankfully from Theseustoo) that I feel it is time to devote an entire column to what I refer to as “love detours”.
Perhaps some of you think that your dear old Aunt Mary is unqualified to comment on such problems. You may even be convinced Aunt Mary finds such questions shocking; but I assure you she does not. Vulgar and base, yes. Shocking? Not one iota. You see, dear ones, even though Aunt Mary has never known wedded bliss, she is quite intimately familiar with all matters of the heart and loins. During the swinging sixties, dear ones, I was witness to such bacchanalia as would make Hugh Hefner swoon and Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice blush.
I was not however soiled by my experiences because I have always able to remain above the fray, as it were. Think of me as an enigmatic, revolutionary, and obviously brilliant research scientist to whom the messy trials and tribulations of human interaction are simply the disgusting muck at the bottom of my Petri dish. I know you are suffering, dear ones, and if the myriad of questions that currently have flooded my ebox are any indication, the great desperate majority of you out there look to me as a light in the darkness, a bastion of hope, an omniscient purveyor of truth, a vital counterbalance to the excesses of this hyper-sexualized cyber-society known as the 21st century and I fully intend to be the rock in your hard, hard place.
My first step in this calling is to bring some solace to my poor misguided nephew Theseustoo. You might ask, Aunt Mary, were you to find yourself in the identical situation to Theseustoo, what you do?
This is a very good question, dear nephews and nieces. One you should ask yourself regularly: what would Aunt Mary do? As a quick aside, I’ve been thinking lately of a simply wonderful idea. I’ve been thinking of making up some Aunt Mary t-shirts, hats, wristbands and the like, emblazoned with my image and likeness and the simple but always poignant message: WWAMD? What Would Aunt Mary Do? Isn’t that lovely?
So, let’s take the WWAMD test right now, shall we?
Just say, for argument sake, that your Aunt Mary was suddenly, without prior warning, to happen upon a young Sri Lankan on her doorstep declaring she has Aunt Mary in her sights. I can tell you without pause what Aunt Mary would do in that situation. She would slam the door shut in her silly Sri Lankan face and set the dogs on the wandering trollop; but (and here’s where Aunt Mary’s sensitivity shines most brightly) I sense, dear Theseustoo, that there is more to your question than you are willing to let on. Am I correct in this assumption, nephew? Could it be that you inspire this kind of spontaneous adoration on a regular basis? Have young women from other nations (Russia perhaps?) appeared at your threshold in the past spouting similar declarations? Have you Theseustoo, in fact been encouraging these innocents abroad into such bold acts as the logical result your own flirtatious messages sent willy-nilly all over the world-wide interweb?
If I am correct in my suspicions and you have used your obvious literary gifts to capture these poor women’s affections, then your Aunt Mary is here to tell you that you must take immediate responsibility for your actions and find some way to make amends. At the very least you should introduce the young lady to a lonely neighbor or, better yet, help her find some new career opportunity. You made the mess, Theseustoo, it’s up to you to clean it up.
Remember this little poem Theseustoo if ever you wonder again about life and love:
The road to love is straight and true,
No detours are required.
If you stray from your right path
It will only leave you tired.
Unless you know for certain this young tea-island girl is your one and only love, Theseustoo, your dear Auntie urges you show some much needed restraint. As I say to all my nephew and nieces: resist love detours at all costs no matter how great the opportunity seems or how appealing the knocker or knockers look.
Until next time, nosce te ipsum, dear ones.
Aunt Mary xxxooo
Banfield Boy said:
Dear Aunt Mary
I was wondering whether you might have suggested something otherwise if this Sri Lankan had a sister? I am not sure sure whether I would have been so merciful, just and pure.. I may have opted to get lost in the Woods.. love detours seem like such a natural part of life until you hit the autobarn of Love.. when one finds their true self.
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Banfield Boy said:
Dear Aunt Mary,
One might have mistaken you for Aunty Jack, perhaps just Jac or even Shirley, what a pain
That you might solemly promise to watch and pray, for that mind to be in us, that is also in Aunty Mary so to say
Being merciful, just and pure has been a challenge through my life and I wonder what would have happenned if the Sri Lankan has a sister
Please advise me, I have a sexy girlfriend who loves cuddles in the morning and I just just can’t face it, how westminster…
What would you do?
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Cole Slawter said:
When the only sound on the empty street, is the heavy tread of the heavy feet,
that belong to a lonesome cop, I open shop
When the moon so long has been gazing down, on the wayward ways of this wayward town
that her smile becomes a smirk, I go to work
Love for sale, appetizing young love for sale
love that’s fresh and still unspoiled, love that’s only slightly soiled
love for sale
who will buy, who would like to sample my supply
who’s prepared to pay the price, for a trip to paradise
love for sale
let the poets pipe of love, in their childish ways,
I know every type of love, better far than they
if you want the thrill of love, I have been through the mill of love
old love, new love, every love but true love
love for sale, appetizing young love for sale
if you want to buy my wares follow me and climb the stairs,
love for sale
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Warrigal said:
Talk about love detours. Have you heard about Mary’s bloke John. What he’s been up to. Polecatting round town.
Gonna tell aunt Mary ’bout uncle John. He claim he has the misery, but he’s havin’ a lot of fun, Oh baby, yeah baby, woo baby! Havin’ me some fun tonight! Well, long tall Sally, she’s built for speed, She’s got everything that uncle John need, Oh baby, yeah baby, woo baby! Havin’ me some fun tonight!
Well, I saw uncle John with bald headed Sally. He saw aunt Mary coming and he ducked back in the alley, Oh baby, yeah baby, woo baby!Havin’ me some fun tonight. We’re gonna have some fun tonight.
We’re gonna have some fun tonight
Woo, have some fun tonight
Everything’s all right
Have some fun, have me some fun tonight
Case rests.
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Aunt Mary said:
You are not alone, dear Voice, in being unwilling to air your laundry in public. Especially with so many purient little piglets hoping to get a peek over the fence. You could submit your question directly to Aunt Mary box at aunt_mary@live.com. That way you can address it with any kind of pseudonym you like and the astyages of the world will never be the wiser. I’ll be sure to shuffle my column to help complete the disguise.
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astyages said:
Dear Aunt Mary,
I must confess that the situation had already been resolved satisfactorily before I ever posted this question. Forgive my audacity and impertinence; it was asked not out of genuine need for advice, but rather as a test of the quality of said advice… Would you like to know what I did and why?
🙂
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Aunt Mary said:
Please do let us all know how you handled your sri lankan situation. I am also quite fascinated in any explanation as to why this women appeared on your doorstep in the first place. Perhaps I was incorrect in assuming you had a hand in setting the event in motion.
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astyages said:
Well, you know, your own first reaction was most probably the wisest one and I can’t deny that it crossed my mind; however two things stopped me: firstly it was immediately apparent that this person was both homeless and desperate and having been homeless myself at one stage I found I could not in all conscience turn her away without at least hearing about exactly what her problems were and how she came to be doing what she said she was doing, ie. knocking on strangers’ doors to ask for help with housing… etc… If she was on the level maybe there was somthing I could do to help… at least point her in the direction of the right government or non-government organizations dealing with homelessness… so invited her in for a cup of tea; it was, I felt, the least I could do and my curiosity was getting the better of me.
I soon discovered she was suffering from a mental illness (I suspected schizophrenia; no surprise there; about 90% of the homeless are suffering from this!) and that in fact she was staying with a friend, an old man in his 90s, who apparently would not let her back in the house after 9.30 (“I don’t like to disturb him after that; he’s so old!”) Which I interpreted as meaning that she had a place in a local hostel for the homeless, but they wouldn’t let her in after 9.30, but I said nothing of my suspiscions…
I eventually persuaded her that I would make a better friend than ‘boyfriend’ and that if she needed my help to look for a flat that I would do so; that i’d even drive her around to check out possible flats/units etc… and also that, in spite of her incredible persistence, it was most definately NOT a good idea for her to move in with me…
And no, Aunt Mary, I’d never even seen the woman before in my life and have no idea why she chose me; maybe she’d heard I was a ‘soft touch’ and so deliberately targeted me for some kind of scam, (to be truthful, that’s what I thought was her most likely purpose)
So I told her that were she to move in with me she would have to come everywhere with me because I wouldn’t be sure that she didn’t have a boyfriend on the outside waiting to come along with a big van and empty my flat!
“I don’t even WANT to move in with you now you’ve said that!” was her immediate reply. I agreed that it probably wasn’t such a good idea and reiterated my promise of help with her flat-hunting, and if she ever does come back I’ll keep my word; however I don’t expect to see her again. I think her and her boyfriend – the one with the van – will most likely keep clear of my place from now on.
Opportunity knocks, you say, for Theseustoo… but I say there was no real opportunity there at all; just the fates taking the piss!
😉
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Emmjay said:
Wow, T2 good story ! Stranger than fiction. And probably rather prescient of you too.
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astyages said:
Glad you liked my story, Emmjay; as you say, ‘stranger than fiction’… but how do you mean, ‘prescient’?
🙂
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Emmjay said:
Meaning that you seem to have been able to accurately predict coming events – like a removalist doing over your place had you acquiesced to the young lady’s wishes. Born out by her total disappearance. Looking for another kindly mug punter.
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astyages said:
Oh, I see what you mean… but it’s simple deduction really.
“It’s Ella Fitzgerald my dear Whopper!”
😉
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Voice said:
You know, I’m gonna take every aspect of my life and look at it and then I’m gonna ask myself, ‘What would Aunt Mary do in this situation?’ And then, you know, I’ll do that.
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Warrigal said:
I’m going to see if Mary can come and give a talk to the Molong CWA. She’s obviously a woman of deep insight and extensive experience.
They won’t be able to pay a speakers fee but they do a nice cuppa and a beautiful scone.
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Aunt Mary said:
I would so enjoy an afternoon devonshire tea with the good ladies of the Molong CWA. I find women ot experience to be fascinating conversationalists.
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A Fan said:
Dear Aunt Mary,
I’d just like to say what a comfort it is knowing there is another woman who I can discuss all my sexual issues with. But I am shy. Do you do private consultations?
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astyages said:
Voice, the ‘baring of the soul’ in public is an essential part of the therapeutic process… and you know you can’t hide from we piglets! Not if you forget to remove your avatar, you can’t! And now, if we come across any avatar-less posts of an inquiring and sexual nature directed at our beloved Aunt Mary, we’ll know just who to suspect, won’t we?
🙂
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Warrigal said:
Keep taunting Vox like this and you’ll end up with a good birching, young man, bare soul or no.
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astyages said:
Errrr… yes… you’re probably right Warrigal… Sorry Voice, I was just teasing… Warrigal’s right, I deserve a good birching!
😉
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Voice said:
You two will have to sort that out between yourselves. Don’t feel obliged to report back.
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Emmjay said:
Another classic, Voice !
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