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Home of the Brave. Land of the Free.

13 Saturday Feb 2010

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The Loved One

The Loved One on the Los Angeles to San Francisco Train

By Susan Merrell

It was a year ago, almost to the day that I first travelled to the United States.  It was President’s Day weekend (third Monday in February) when the plane landed in Los Angeles. It was the first Presidents’ Day where the White House incumbent was black. So, did the election of Barack Obama to the most powerful position in the country, if not the world, signify that racial prejudice and the white superiority complex was a thing of the past in America?  Did it hell.

Not a cloud was in the sky the Saturday morning we left Los Angeles for San Francisco. From the warmth of our train carriage you could be forgiven for thinking it was summer. It wasn’t. The temperature was hovering around freezing. The weather in stark contrast to what it appeared to be – as, we found, were so many other things here.

It had taken only a few hours on US soil to ascertain certain vital things. Like ‘regular’ coffee is undrinkable. If you really want to drink the coffee rather than just use the cup for warming your hands, ask for ‘espresso’. Neither is there such a thing as a ‘small’ size. Small equates to large and the sheer volume of liquid in a ‘large’ could break the drought in country Victoria.

Having only one night in LA, the ‘loved one’ and I spent it at the theatre. Playing was a musical comedy, Minskys at the Ahmanson Theatre in downtown Los Angeles – just a pleasant stroll from our hotel. Pre-theatre, we’d dined at a charming French Bistro nearby.

In the theatre foyer during interval, we amused ourselves people watching. Americans speak English, but not as we know it.

“Where yer headed?” for instance, was a question that would stump my husband time and time again.

“He wants to know where you’re going,” I’d translate.

But, be that as it may, things in LA had a certain air of familiarity grace of our televisions and movie screens. And some of those television characters were right there in that foyer. I swear, if I’d only heard her voice and not seen her face to convince me otherwise, I could easily have believed that the actress who played Robert’s mother-in-law in Everybody Loves Raymond was in that theatre foyer. You know the one – she has a high-pitched, little girl’s voice. Her voice so exaggerated that you’d think nobody could really speak like that. Wrong.

There was something disconcerting about this theatre audience that we couldn’t immediately quite put our finger on. Ditto the congenial crowd at the bistro. In a ‘light bulb’ moment it came to us. Almost everyone was white. (The exception was a couple of Rastafarians sitting in front of us at the theatre.) Where were all the dark-skinned Americans?

It’s not surprising that we, as Australians, took so long to become aware of their absence as, grace of the now defunct ‘White Australia Policy’, (Australia’s very own substantial contribution to racial discrimination) Australia’s contingent of dark skinned people, especially African, is still not large.  There’s no expectation that we will encounter many in our everyday lives.

But African/Americans make up 13.5% of the population of the US and that night in Los Angeles, African-Americans were grossly under-represented in the few places we’d been: a four-star hotel, an upmarket French Bistro and the theatre.

The next day, in the early hours of Saturday morning, cocooned in our warm, comfortable taxi en route to Union Station we found the missing Americans.

The taxi meter had not clicked over very far when mean streets replaced the congenial boulevards of downtown LA. They were bustling with humanity unlike the still empty weekend streets surrounding our hotel. Clearly homeless, these people were wrapped in blankets against the cold. It seems when you’re homeless and it’s freezing sleeping late is not that desirable.

And it was very cold. Warm breath turned white when it made contact with the icy LA morning. People blew this warmth onto their hands to thaw out rigid fingers. They were queuing. I don’t know why. Perhaps for food, perhaps for work. There were few Caucasians. Poverty and skin colour seemed to be bedfellows in downtown Los Angeles.

To give further credence to this developing theory, in our first class cabin on board the train to San Francisco all were Caucasian.

Notwithstanding this, the people with whom we struck up a conversation were nice, decent, friendly people…except…when we started to talk politics their necks grew increasingly red.

They had an evangelical approach to democracy.  Wishing to impart their beliefs worldwide they favoured doing so whether the recipients of their largesse wanted it or no.  It was their justification in advocating the right – nay the duty – of America to intercede in global skirmishes and, if necessary, to invade other sovereign nations. “It’s for their own good, you know.”

Opinions were resolute even after I’d identified myself as an Australian journalist and asked if I could record the conversation and quote it in future articles. They were delighted to cooperate and it wasn’t too long into the conversation that I realised their ease in expressing their prejudice had a lot to do with the colour of my skin.  They’d assumed because I was white I was simpatico.

The scenario was akin to the episode in Sacha Baron-Cohen’s Borat movie where a bunch of young American men’s reactionary views escalate into something grotesque with the encouragement of Borat and alcohol. I wasn’t encouraging them, in fact I struggled to remain neutral, to rein in my often shocked reaction in order to let their voices through.

Only one of my co-travellers suspected that I might in the future betray them in print.

“You’re going home to tell of these cock-sure Americans. I bet,” he said to me as he left the club carriage. Bingo!

For Dad – Susan Merrell

04 Monday Jan 2010

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Royston Lloyd RIP

It wasn’t the ‘Happy New Year’ we’d anticipated when my Father passed away this new year’s eve just gone.  A new decade to be lived without him is hard to picture – he’s always been there.

“Go and ask your father,” my mother would say when I was young and my childish demands had overwhelmed her.  I didn’t need to – he’d say yes.  He always did.  My Dad was a bit of a pushover – soft hearted really.

He was also the voice of reason.  When emotions were running high in our highly-strung family and two of us were at loggerheads, it was always Dad who negotiated the peace – his heart in the right place.

But his heart was also a problem.  Although celebrating his 80th birthday last November, he suffered his first major heart attack when he was just 44 years old.  In the ensuing years his health problems became so widespread and profound that you’d be forgiven for thinking that his ailments defined him – But they never did.

For as well as being kind hearted, my father was also a funny and clever man – and it shone through.  Dad’s quirky sense of humour, and even quirkier turn of phrase never left him – even in the worse of times.

Just before Christmas, for example, after Dad had been hospitalised and when he was in some considerable pain and discomfort he still managed to utter a classic ‘Dad-ism’.

When my sister, Mary, said something with which he disagreed he turned to me, shook his head and said:

“When you have a clutch of children, you always get one daft one.”

But my all time favourite ‘Dad-ism’ was usually born of his frustration with one of us children.

“If I knew then what I know now,” he would say, “I would have just bred kittens.”

‘Dad-isms’ have become rich pickings for my journalistic writings, belatedly giving Dad a wider audience for his witticisms. He’d like that.

But then Dad was always good with words.  For as long as I can remember, he was an avid devotee of the cryptic crossword.  He passed that on to me.  But he was always the master.  Being no slouch myself, I am still no more than the master’s apprentice.  It was always me who’d need to ring him for the answers whenever I was stuck on a clue.  He’d have it.  You could rely on it.  I remain in awe of his intellect.

Dad took pride in many things.  He was particularly proud of his garden and the sheer size of his vegetables.  Home-grown vegetables were a necessary feature of Lloyd Christmas lunches.

And Christmas was a particularly busy time for Dad, especially when I was young.  He spent many a sleepless Christmas Eve constructing Christmas presents.  With four children and never enough money to go around, the deficit had to be made up by ingenuity. And ingenious he was.  There were swimming pools, bikes and doll’s houses all constructed or overhauled at the last minute so as not to spoil the Christmas morning surprise.  Which brings us back, once again, to his kind heart.

Dad sacrificed many of his own opportunities for the well-being of his family – and he did so happily.  He was proud of us.

It is why the proud, funny, clever, kind-hearted man that was Royston Lloyd will live on in my heart…

And death shall have no dominion.

And death shall have no dominion

Dead mean naked they shall be one

With the man in the wind and the west moon;

When their bones are picked clean and the clean bones gone,

They shall have stars at elbow and foot;

Though they go mad they shall be sane,

Though they sink through the sea they shall rise again;

Though lovers be lost love shall not;

And death shall have no dominion.

Dylan Thomas

God speed, Dad. Rest in Peace.

New York, NEW YORK, NEW FREAKIN’ YORK

30 Thursday Jul 2009

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An intimate NYC tete a tete

An intimate NYC tete a tete

On her first visit to New York, Susan Merrell expected to love it – and she did.  If only they’d turn down the volume.

Having been in Academia now for more than a decade, I’ve learnt to guard against stereotyping. So on arrival in New York, I had not given a thought to the loud, brash New Yorker of legend. I wasn’t expecting to encounter clones of Eddie Murphy, Sylvester Stallone or Jerry Seinfield. Yet, they were all there, en masse. New York is full of …well…New Yorkers. And boy, are they loud?

On our first night in New York, we were content to leave the ‘city that never sleeps’ to its own devices and to climb under the covers for an early night. We didn’t expect to be disturbed. Wrong

Around midnight, we were woken by a voice. There was no one there. Was it the radio? The television? No. It was coming from the next room

Believing the walls to be unusually thin we sat patiently while the voice gave a critique of Ibsen’s Hedda Gabler. Not finished, it then went on to explain the parallels between West Side Story and Romeo and Juliet – hardly drawing a breath. The monologue was punctuated by a second person’s intermittent “uh-huh”. The oration was long, the breath control and voice projection awesome. And the voice was thorough. Not a stone was left unturned. Luckily, it was not in possession of any insights on other Broadway shows – at least none that were shared that night. Uh-huh.

But the walls were not thin. The theatre critic had a voice that could penetrate twenty metres of wet cement and it wasn’t a unique skill in New York. What’s more, they don’t have dialogues. You know, conversations – where speakers take turns. It’s most noticeable when they are on the phone (and they’re always on the phone). There are just no gaps.

Taxi drivers are serial offenders. I’d often make the mistake of thinking the driver was talking to me and attempt an answer. My joining in never bothered them. They just kept talking on that phone as if I wasn’t there. And I thought only my children had that talent.

Walking along Broadway in the Financial District we were privy to a mobile phone conversation that went on for more than ten blocks. The speaker was loud. And was he indiscreet? HELL, YEAH. If only I knew the identity of the listener (I knew most everything else) blackmail would be almost obligatory.  (But only if one has criminal tendencies – and everyone knows writers don’t have those.)

Yet, not for a minute am I suggesting New Yorkers are impolite – insensitive to those around them, yes. Impolite, no. In fact most service providers had obviously been schooled in polite key phrases and told to use them often. ‘You’re welcome,’ was the polite retort to everything that was said, be it the appropriate response or no.

Inappropriate responses are known as non-sequiturs. They’re my husband’s preferred mode of communication. In his case he is listening but is as deaf as a post. Not something to which he’ll freely admit. To cover up his deafness, he guesses. He answers what he expects a person to say.

‘Which stop are you getting off at?’

‘No.’

What’s worse, since being in New York getting him to admit he’s hearing deficient is impossible. He’s heard every word that has been uttered while in New York – even through walls, hasn’t he?

Interestingly, people speaking at high decibels did carry some rewards – in restaurants, for instance. While Hubby and myself quickly gave up on our own mealtime conversations (competition being too fierce), eavesdropping became mandatory and a bit of an art. If you chose your dining neighbours wisely there was all sorts of interesting stuff you could pick up. One man was planning to move to Korea to take up a teaching post. He got the job during a ‘speed interview’. Akin to speed dating, he had gone to a jobs fair where one moved from employer to employer and had five minutes to convince the interviewer to hire you. Imagine that.

Conversely, you could be unlucky and just be privy to a mealtime of whining about the “FREAKIN’ ECONOMY.” Should I have interjected with a question over American culpability, do you think?

All of the New Yorkers we encountered were real people, not stereotypes. Nevertheless they were eerily familiar. I think that in our endeavours to be politically correct sometimes we fail to understand that stereotypes are formed from particular and prevalent types. To ignore this is as misleading as to imagine that every one of a type will conform to a standard.

First Published by Eureka Street  http://www.eurekastreet.com.au/article.aspx?aeid=12704 July 1 2009

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